Bathsheba Lesson 3 - The Blame Game

A favorite game around my house is the blame game.  Do you know it?  Usually it goes like this...

Me: Whose dirty dishes are these in the living room?

Child:  Mine.

Me:  Why didn’t you clean them up?

Child:  The sink is full.

Me:  Okay, just load it into the dishwasher.

Child:  I didn’t know if the dishes were clean or dirty.

Me:  Just smell them. They’re clean.

Child:  That doesn’t matter cause you rinse them first, so I can’t really tell.

Me:  True.  They’re clean.  Will you empty and reload, please?

Child:  But I don’t know where everything goes.

On and on and on. Round and round and round we go.  Until I get frustrated and... just do it myself.  We’ve mastered it, or should I say, my kiddo has mastered it.  The blame game.

Seems silly, but it’s the same game we play with sin.  We have choices all along the way that act as warning signs - but we decide to tip the first domino, and they all start to fall.

David made a series of choices starting with a simple second glance a Bathsheba, which led to asking about her, and... the rest is obviously history.  Bathsheba made her own series of choices.  Although we don’t know the exact progression of her sin, she played her own part.  Francine Rivers offers a personal perspective of the battle within Bathsheba’s heart and mind.  I highly recommend you read her historical fiction account in novelette 4 of Lineage of Grace!

Let’s retrace David’s choices in 2 Samuel 11:3-15.

1. Identify each time in this passage that David made a deliberate choice to disregard a warning and proceed deeper into sin.  I personally wrote “STOP!” out beside each one in my Bible about 5-6 times.

But he didn’t stop.

2.  Where does sin start for each of us?

3.  Describe the progression of sin.  Did David intend to commit murder that night on the roof when he accidentally saw Bathsheba?

4.  Read James 1:14-15.  To where does sin eventually lead?

5.  If you’re like me, your response is probably... “I would never kill anybody?!”  But death is multi-layered.  What sort of death can be caused by our sin?

CONNECT: Spend a few minutes reflecting on the sin in your life.  Think back to your tendencies from Lesson 1 or your struggles when you’re in those wrong places from Lesson 2, if you need a prompting.

What is the root behind this sin?

What has this sin led to in your life and is this what you planned to happen?

How has this sin caused death in some way whether relationally, emotionally, spiritually,...?

I know I don’t like to fully expose my heart and it’s depravity.  It can be shocking and scary to see exactly how dark we are as humans, BUT this is the exact part of you that Jesus gave His all for.  He loves us right there - at our worst.  This is what it means to be known and STILL loved.  There are no secrets with the Lord, no shocking moments of behavior, no too far gone places.  He is there and is waiting for us to look up and see the loving light of His truth.

Did the devil make us do it?  No.  He was certainly cheering us on as we took the bait, but he can’t make us do anything.  It was all our doing.  You know the blame game can’t have a winner until somebody takes the blame, and it’s time for us to end it!



Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”

-Proverbs 28:13

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

-1 John 1:9

“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”

-Matthew 7:3


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